Do we numb our feelings?

While I was thinking of something new to write about self-awareness, I thought of this concept that has been bugging me for the past few years and I thought it’s a perfect time to explore this. Some of us out there are struggling to talk about our feelings – how it affects our mood and how that leads us to feel disconnected. I am not sure if it’s a cultural thing, it’s something we learn at school or something societies teach us…

I actually don’t know if the struggle is about how we think of our surroundings or is it actually about how we think of ourselves? Are we true to ourselves? Do we have the courage to say how we feel, talk about shame or fear. And the ability to be authentic to ourselves – admit the fact that we are vulnerable!

We live in a vulnerable world, where it’s hard to talk about how we feel sometimes because if we do, people will judge us and we might even judge ourselves. So what we tend to do is to run away from those feelings, we numb those feelings and pretend that everything is OK! As Rene Brown says in her talk about The “Power of Vulnerability”, we numb vulnerability by eating a couple of beers and a banana nut muffin!

It is sad that we don’t have the ability to talk about those things or even in some circumstances we try to not think of them so we numb those thoughts – we numb joy, numb gratitude and we just suck it up and get on with our day but really, where does this lead us? And by the way, this is not only on a personal level, but it’s the way we work and communicate with others, the way we collaborate with a team and co-workers. It could have a major effect on how we actually do our work.

I believe we should allow ourselves to be vulnerably seen – as there is nothing wrong with that. No one is going to think of us any less or different – and if they do, then maybe we shouldn’t be surrounded by them?

So, let’s talk, let’s share, to hell with what societies restrict us with. It will no doubt improve our lives and make us feel better and surely make us less disconnected…

I leave you with a great talk from Dr. Brené Brown – a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work, as well as the author of the #1 New York Times bestselling book,  Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead.  Brené’s 2010 TEDx Houston talk, The Power of Vulnerability, is one of the top ten most viewed TED talks in the world.

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Published by: everchangingchameleon

I'm an International, multidisciplinary artist and creative thinker with 10+ years of intensive fine arts, branding and advertising experience. I'm passionate about creating powerful messages through my work. My comprehensive experience and expertise is built on a solid formal education, a Bachelors in Graphic Design and a Certificate in Information Architecture & User Experience. My strategic thinking and meticulously planning has been recognized as critical to the difference between success and failure across many industries; Advertising, Interior Decorating, Styling, Events and Fine Arts. I speak global fluently - my international experience working for major brands over the last decade has made him acutely sensitive to cultural diversity and the needs of a global audience. As a result, I think and communicate differently. I utilize all the knowledge and experience I have gained catering creatively to different cultures in different countries. I have a big world vision and I encourage innovation, fearlessness, openness and inspiration in all the work I do. In the past few years, I started exploring other aspects of art and design. I'm focusing more on modern sculpture, painting and designing his own furniture collection - areas I never thought I would tap into...

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2 thoughts on “Do we numb our feelings?”

    1. I have been thinking about the same and understanding how precious it is to connect with our vulnerability .. And this is where the real strength is. Thank u for sharing, Penka

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